“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” – Wayne Dyer
Those that know me, know there’s a few things I don’t subscribe to, God, or Gods being one of them and some of the funny things Hippies sign up for, namely Spiritualism. (In case the Hippies were wondering, that’s the same as believing in a God, quit trying to fool yourselves!) Something Spiritualists like to believe in and I’m pretty sure Buddhists subscribe to this thought too, is Karma.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the idea of Karma. Do good things and good things will happen to you, do bad and, well, face the consequences.
But I just find it hard to believe. I pride myself on doing the right thing (most of the time). I don’t go out of my way to be mean to people, in fact quite the opposite. I would rather be your friend than create an enemy, who wants to sleep with one open? I know there are people that can treat others like shit and still get a good night’s sleep, but I can’t. I guess it’s because I also have a guilty conscience, but good things don’t happen to me with the same regularity as I do good things. But why should I expect good things just because I do good? Isn’t knowing you did the right thing reward enough?
As an example 2 weeks ago, I went to the local store. I got a bit greedy in the fridge trying to grab 2 bottles of Gatorade with one hand because my other hand and arm were full. As a result I knocked a bottle on to the ground and it smashed. The owner was near and she said she’d grab a bucket and clean it up. I told her I would pay for it, but she insisted that I shouldn’t, that it was an accident. Sure it was an accident, but why should someone else pay for my stupidity? I got up to the counter with my groceries and 2 bottles of Gatorade and told the young girl to charge me for 3. She was baffled but did as I asked.
Yesterday I went to the local hardware store and picked up 4 clips for my watering system, I told the guy at counter I had 4 and he charged me for 4. I get home and discover I actually have 5. Now these things are 45c each, nothing expensive, but I felt I had essentially shop lifted. I had to go to the hardware store today and get 4 more clips (as I’m an idiot and got the wrong size!). I got 4 in the right size and grabbed 1 of the clips from yesterday. I explained to the owner of the store that I needed to be charged for the 5th clip as I told the other guy yesterday I had 4. She told me not to be silly, it was an accident. But I told it would make me feel better, so she did and then I replaced it.
Now I’m not telling you this to be all high and mighty and preach about all the good things I do, so you can bow down before me because I’m awesome (I am awesome though!).
I’m telling you this because I want to show you that that is how I would expect my children to be, and if I expect them to be like that, then I would need to lead by example.
And this brings me back to Karma and why I don’t believe in it. I try to do nice things all the time. Not because I expect anything for being nice, but because I think it’s the right thing to do. If everyone treated everyone else with respect, then there wouldn’t be any wars, people wouldn’t murder people and this whole planet would be an awesomer place to live. (Yes awesomer, ’cause I think it is awesome and awesomer is a word because I say so!)
Now as I say, I try to be nice, I avoid arguments where possible because I don’t like conflict, I’d rather bow down and “lose” the argument rather than fight with someone and then have to deal with the awkwardness that comes along with it. I hate having to tip toe around that person for the next few hours or day or so for fear of starting up the fight again. Make love not war I say!
Which means that, I would rather just assume we like each and get on with the business of being friends. After all, if we’re busy being friends we don’t have to worry about the awkwardness or any of the nasty stuff. Let the good times roll I say!
But unfortunately some people just seem to be born bitter. Well maybe they aren’t born bitter, maybe something has happened that has made them that way. And if that’s the case, GET OVER IT! By being bitter, you let the other guy win. Turn your frown upside down and get on with the job of enjoying your life.
For the past few years I have had the unfortunate pleasure of having to spend the best part of my day working with a person just like this. They are sour and bitter and seemed to hate the world, and they were quite happy to push that darkness on to you. As much as I try to ignore that, that kind of thing has a way of wearing you down.
Now I won’t get in to the details, suffice to say this person put myself and my family in a place where I didn’t want to be. As a result, I no longer have to deal with that person on a day to day basis or any more (so there is always an up side!)
But a beautiful thing happened this week, that would make me question my belief in Karma.
It would appear this person didn’t look as they crossed the tracks and was hit by the Karma Train. That person now finds themselves in the same position I was 2 months ago. Feeling hopeless and in great despair. Normally I wouldn’t wish this on anybody (and I didn’t) but this time I feel like it was deserved. If you are going to be bitter and twisted and push that on to a person that enjoys life and would be happier to have you as a friend than an enemy, if you want to live your life as a bitter, twisted person, then just as the sign says, “Choo Choo! Mother Fucker!”
Unfortunately the Karma Train got sideways and took a few innocent people out along the way, which brings me back to reality and confirms my disbelief in the whole Karma thingy.
Still, I’m going to do what most people who “believe” in Karma do, choose to believe in it in this case because it works for me!
Oh yeah I had a good week, and yes I’m smiling from ear to ear as I type this. I know I shouldn’t and it goes against my general principles, but damn it, I feel good, so I’m going to let it slide this time.
Choo Choo! Mother Fucker, Choo Choo!